Just another Life Experience

Living with guilt and a heavy heart

To be offended by a random post, one must first have a guilty conscience. A guilty conscience will cause someone to hear a truth that applies to them and get angry simply because "The shoe fits".

A heart full of guilt causes a person to withdraw from those who are aware of the cause of the guilt. It’s easy to look at yourself in a mirror and forgive yourself for hurting others, but to face those who know and admit your failures to them is the only way to find peace with yourself.

You might say to yourself: “I have forgiven myself for not responding to my mother for years when she attempted to reach out to me because I don’t do anything unless I want to.”

You might say to yourself: “I have learned to forgive myself when I decided not to visit my mother in the hospital while she was on life support, because I don’t do anything unless I want to.”

You might say to yourself: “I can learn to forgive myself for not taking the recommended actions my Dad asked me to do in order to help keep my mother alive if something happens to him, but I don’t do anything unless I want to.”

The final straw that broke the camel’s back, the thing that caused me to take the action that I took was when you decided not to honor your Mother on Mother’s day. Because you were so full of guilt, you thought that I was trying to manipulate you with my Face book posts and you stubbornly decided not to do something that was right to do in rebellion against me.

Only those who are real believers will accept what the bible says about rebellion. I quote: “rebellion is like witchcraft and stubbornness is like iniquity and idolatry”.

I published the following post on Facebook, not to send a message to a certain person, but to give my opinion about what I believed was the proper thing to do on Mother’s Day. Just my opinion being shared as do many others who share their opinions.

Following is my Mother’s Day post on Facebook.

“Honor your Mother on “Mother’s Day”

1. Personally visit her if possible
2. Telephone her with best wishes if a visit is not possible.
3. Send her a Mother’s Day Card

Anything other than one of these things to do is insensitive if your Mother is still living.”

 

Well someone took this as a message to her because she had distanced herself from her mother for years and probably was carrying around a sense of guilt because of what she had done, so she wrote the following message to me:

Quoting what this person said:

“Please do not post statements on FB to try & guilt me or other sisters to do anything. I am referring to your 3 Mothers Day posts. When I agreed to open my FB page to you, I told you I didn't know if it would ever go further than that. Please do not push or try to manipulate. This only causes me to draw back. If I decide to ever take another step, it will be because I want to, not because of guilt.”

I waited until Mother’s day had passed with hope that this person would do the right thing and personally contact her mother and take a step to end this separation from her, but obviously she didn’t do it because she doesn’t do anything unless she wants to.”

Because of this continued disrespect towards her mother and the unnecessary hurt to her mother that she had consistently demonstrated over the years, I removed this person from being a listed friend on my Facebook account. How could I consciously continue having this person as a friend when it was obvious to me that she never intended to change her relationship with her mother?

Then this person’s daughter, my granddaughter, posted an open to the public message to me on Facebook for all to see:

Again I quote what was posted on Facebook to me:

“For the record, Ron Cox...this person that you deleted, went out on a limb to trust you to be a FB friend. The first time that she "disagreed with you", you delete her. Sounds like you didn't really want to be friends in the first place. Probably should delete me too.”

As you can see for yourself there was no “disagreement” about what I said in my Mother’s Day posting. The message that was sent to me was nothing more than a response as the result of a guilty conscience reacting to my Mother’s Day Facebook post.

I just wanted to set the record straight so that misinformation and gossip would not be accepted as being fact.

Just another example of how I must have failed to be the right kind of Father to this person for her to turn out to be so rebellious and disrespectful against her parents.